Denial is an action, but tease is an art. We Mistresses love to tease and deny our subs. But hear me out: reverse it. Denial, then tease. It may seem to be an interchangeable term but the impact of each is very different. As a sensual femdom Mistress, I know when to use tease and denial – and when to deny, then tease a man.

Tease And Denial

The tease is a seduction. A Mistress playing with her toy, demonstrating her ability to arouse and entice him. She may use words, or her touch, or props that trigger a response in her sub. A domme always knows which buttons to push with her sub – and push them she will.

A special sub of mine has a weakness for a certain article of clothing. I enjoy using this weakness to torment him, teasing him repeatedly with the words “I’m going to use the pantyhose.” I describe the many ways to edge him using those stockings – dangling my stiletto heel off my toes, making him smell my pantyhose covered foot, stroking that pair of hose against his skin. Again and again he tells me he needs to have an orgasm and I will, of course, deny him every time. When I am satisfied that he is completely under my control and desperate, I will grant permission for release.

Playing into his fantasy in this way is the perfect example of tease and denial. I bait him with his weakness for pantyhose, tease him mercilessly over and over, and deny him the release he craves until he has satisfied my conditions. This is a very effective way to build desire as well as devotion. While we both enjoy the fantasy, his attention is focused on me only during our call and dissipates after the orgasm. Even when I deny him completely and tell him to call back later, that intense arousal dissipates without the continued tease. The ultimate end to our interaction is the orgasm, even when it is delayed.

Denial, Then Tease

While tease and denial can be quite stimulating for a sub, refusing up front to grant permission to cum demonstrates the control a Mistress has over her sub’s cock. The sub knows he will not have an orgasm and that continued teasing is only for his Mistress’s entertainment. His lack of control as well as the physical torment of being edged with no hope of release is the ultimate flex for a femdom.

Another sub frequently experiences this treatment from me. He made the mistake of handing over control of his sexual pleasure to me many months ago. As he had quite a few shortcomings – small penis, premature ejaculator, chronic masturbator, panty wearer, porn addict, etc – I chose to “punish” him with periods of denial. I tell him he will not be having an orgasm for one week/one month/one year but he will be required to check in with me daily. I will continue to tease him, edge him, and torment him. And when he tells me he is desperate for release, that he needs to have an orgasm…I tell him to put on a pair of blue panties to match his balls and go to bed.

In this case, the “tease” is not building to his eventual orgasm – I’m just toying with him. It’s a game, and one the Mistress always wins.

Denial, Then Tease For Maximum Mindfuckery

Tease and denial is a common interaction between a Mistress and her sub. First the seduction, then the rejection. Tease a man, push all his buttons, work him into a sexual frenzy – then block that cock from release. While there’s a certain amount of pleasure in bluing a man’s balls, reversing that order can be a complete and utter mindfuck for a sub. Deny, then tease.

Telling a sub from the beginning that he will not, under any circumstances, be granted permission to have an orgasm. Then you tease…taunt….torment him to the edge, over and over again. You allow him to hope for release only to remind him that he’s already been denied. It’s the most delicious game – and one no sub can resist. The tease AFTER denial will melt a man’s brain and give his Mistress complete control of his cock. A straight tease and denial can be fun – but nothing can match the mindfuck of denial, then tease.

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